Every one of us has different challenges to meet and difficult situations to deal with both personally and professionally. Resilient people are able to utilise their skills and strengths to cope and recover from problems and challenges. Resilience does not eliminate stress or erase life’s difficulties. What it does do is give people the strength to tackle problems head on, overcome adversity and move on with their lives.
There is no instant antidote to dealing with stressful situations; there is only experience and the gradual development of resilience skill. Effectively understanding and choosing how we think, feel and act directly impacts on our concept of self-belief and self-reliance and ultimately resilience.
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to have self-awareness and self-management of emotions combined with the skill to recognise, identify, assess and interpret the emotions of others. This ability to understand ourselves gives us the power to positively influence our own behaviour and the behaviour of others. Emotional Intelligence is essentially a framework for understanding and connecting with:
- Emotions and their triggers
- Emotions and cognitive thought, and
- Feelings and their translation into behaviours
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is increasingly valued as an asset because it empowers us with the ability to understand how we are perceived by others and how our actions and behaviours impact upon others. EI skills also allow us to understand and handle other people and their feelings.
We can tap in to the Emotional Intelligence pillars of self-awareness and self-regulation to build our resilience:
- Self-awareness lets us recognise when distressing thoughts and feelings are beginning to build.
- Self-regulation helps us choose how to respond to stressful events so we don’t end up being emotionally hijacked.
7 strategies for developing a resilient mindset include:
- Shaping your sense of control: being aware of what is within your control, recognising what is beyond your control, and learning to let go of things outside of your control;
- Maintaining a hopeful outlook, expecting good things and visualising what you wish;
- Avoid seeing crises or stressful events as unbearable problems;
- Holding the belief that there is something you can do to manage your feelings and cope;
- Keeping a long-term perspective and considering stressful events in a broader context;
- Proactively deciding how to deal with strain and pressure before they escalate into negative stressors.
- Practicing, practicing, practicing approaches, responses, thoughts and attitudes that increase resilience.
Effectively understanding and choosing how we think, feel and act can result in increased resilience in many aspects of our lives such as energy, positivity, coping, relationships and integrity.
Resilience is a practiced art; we need to practice resilience to further develop our natural reservoirs of resiliency.
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